Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

The audio of Tiger Woods leaving a voicemail message for his alleged mistress, Jaimee Grubbs, was released on December 2, 2009, by US Weekly. Any doubt that he had been unfaithful to his wife, Elin Nordegren, was immediately erased.

Audio: Tiger Woods Voicemail Message
"Hey it's Tiger, I need you to do me a huge favor. Can you please take your name off your phone? My wife went through my phone and may be calling you. So if you can, please take your name off that. Just have it as a number on the voicemail. You got to do this for me. Huge. Quickly. Bye."

However, even if Tiger grovels for forgiveness, you cannot blame Elin if she questions whether he can be faithful in the future. Will Tiger — and other cheaters — stray again? The answer may put nerve shocks but makes total sense.

“A small number of men have an addiction to cheating — regardless of what their relationship is like. But most men stray because something is lacking in their union, be it $e×, attention, or even excitement,” says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.

A man's unhappiness has been building for a while by the time he cheats. He may not even know how close he is to being tempted until presented with an opportunity. Whether he can be faithful after really depends on how he and his partner deal with it together. Both need to address the root cause of the problem.

For many men, the issue may be $e× life. So learn to gauge each other’s contentedness. You can usually tell — if you look for it — whether he’s craving for more. If the issue is that he feels neglected, sticking by his side more often can help. Once he realizes that he no longer has to compete for your attention, he may be less likely to seek it from others. If the issue is lack of excitement, talk it over and find ways to be creative. Flat relationships could bore a man. Spice it up!

Some men are addicted to cheating. Mostly, men stray because something is wrong with their bond. Fix it and you significantly lower the odds of it happening again.

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1 comment:

  1. unhappiness shouldn't be a reason to philander. you're right, husband and wife should talk about it. thanks for the scoop, by the way :-)